The Communication Compass

"Tired of biting your tongue until it bleeds? "Are you tired of feeling like strangers under the same roof? Sick of conversations that end in slammed doors and silent treatments? It's time to bridge the gap and rediscover the spark that brought you together.

Introducing 'The Communication Compass' - your GPS to navigating the treacherous waters of human interaction. Whether you're a passive pushover, an aggressive bulldozer, or a passive-aggressive ninja, we've got the tools to transform you into a healthy communicator.

Inside this treasure trove of relationship-saving goodness, you'll discover:

• The Four Styles of Communication (and why three of them are slowly killing your relationships)
• The Emotional Jug Technique: Learn to empty your feelings before you overflow (and make a mess)
• The Assertiveness Alchemist: Turn your lead-like passivity into golden confidence
• Daily Check-In Secrets: Fall back in love faster than you can say 'active listening'

Don't let poor communication skills be the silent assassin of your relationships. Grab 'The Communication Compass' now and start speaking the language of love, respect, and getting-what-you-want-without-being-a-jerk.

Your relationships will thank you. Your therapist might miss you. But hey, that's the price of becoming a communication superhero.

Download now and let the transformation begin!"

Communication Compass Download

"Are you tired of feeling like strangers under the same roof? Sick of conversations that end in slammed doors and silent treatments? It's time to bridge the gap and rediscover the spark that brought you together.

Introducing 'The Communication Compass' - your roadmap to reigniting your marriage  and rebuilding trust. This isn't just another relationship guide; it's a proven tool that's transformed countless marriages and relationships.

Inside this relationship-saving treasure chest, you'll discover:

• The Four Communication Styles: Learn which one is slowly poisoning your connection (and how to fix it)
• The Emotional Jug Technique: Empty your emotional baggage before it explodes
• The Daily Check-In Secrets: Fall back in love faster by learning to go from disconnected to connected. 

Don't let poor communication be the silent killer of your relationship. Grab 'The Communication Compass' now and start speaking the language of love, understanding, and lasting connection.

Your future self (and your partner) will thank you. Download now and let the healing begin!"

1. Recognize Your Communication Style with the Four Feelings

•   four core emotions we commonly experience: anger, fear, shame, and sadness. Identifying these within yourself can help you become more aware of your emotional triggers and recognize how they affect your communication style.

Tip: Use assertive communication to 

share these core feelings in real-time, instead of letting them drive a passive or aggressive response. Express, for example, “I feel fearful about…” or “I feel sad because…” to openly communicate what’s at the heart of your emotions.

2. Use the Emotional Jug Technique with the Core Emotion Wheel

The Core Emotion Wheel in the Connection Codes is a powerful tool for identifying and processing feelings. Before approaching tough conversations, take a moment to process your emotions by naming and acknowledging them—this prevents emotional build-up.

Tip: Before you talk, take a few 

moments with the Core Emotion Wheel to clarify your feelings. Once identified, express them gently, as in, “I realize I’m feeling shame about…” or “I feel some fear because…” This honesty helps clear the “emotional jug” before it spills over into anger or frustration.

3. Practice Daily Check-Ins with V.E.R.B.

Dr. Hill encourages using “V.E.R.B.” — Validate, Explore, Repeat, and Bond — during daily check-ins. This helps you tune into each other’s emotions and foster trust.

Tip: When checking in, start by validating the other person’s emotions (e.g., “I can see why you felt that way…”), explore their feelings with curiosity, repeat what they shared to show understanding, and bond by offering empathy. This helps you both stay emotionally connected without waiting for issues to escalate.

4. Respond to Conflict Using the Pain and Peace Cycles

Connection Codes often reveals that in conflict, we may get stuck in a “pain cycle,” where emotions like fear or shame trigger defensive responses. Moving toward a “peace cycle” involves acknowledging these feelings and expressing them assertively.

Tip: When tension arises, recognize if you’re in a pain cycle. Practice saying something like, “I’m feeling scared, and I’d love some reassurance.” This assertion moves you both toward a peace cycle, allowing you to handle the issue constructively rather than defensively.

5. Embrace the Power of 30-Second Bursts

Dr. Hill suggests keeping emotional sharing to short, 30-second bursts. This makes it easier to express emotions without overwhelming yourself or the other person.

Tip: When communicating a need or boundary, stick to short statements, like “I feel anxious when we don’t plan things,” instead of over-explaining. This helps you get to the point quickly and effectively, creating space for understanding without unnecessary buildup.